WARNING: This blog covers some adult and/or explicit topics. Reader discretion advised.
I’m going to preface this blog by saying that I am no ladies man. My fiance will be the first to tell you that fact. Romantic gestures are not really my forte. That being said, I do know what romance is not.
News broke recently that the General Manager of the New York Mets and former Boston Red Sox employee, Jared Porter, sent “a few” unsolicited, explicit messages to a female reporter. By a few, I mean 62 unanswered messages. These messages included lewd comments and images of his “bat” that he took. When asked for comment Porter explained that the images were not of his “bat” but were stock images he took from online and sent to the innocent reporter.
He was swiftly fired. The first thing the Mets have done right since 1986.
All kidding aside, this poor reporter was the victim of sexual harassment and that is no joke. All of this was unwanted. Not only that, she was covering the team and needed to have his contact info to effectively do her job, which makes it impossible for her to simply block him. My personal opinion here is that this sicko should be in jail. If he did this in person he would 100% be in jail. The reporter who Porter harassed should sue him for all he is worth and all he will ever be worth.
All of this brings up an odd phenomenon. I have never understood the whole “sexting” thing. We’ve seen it for years now and it baffles me. Jeffrey Toobin was in the news recently for explicit actions on a Zoom call. Which I’m sure has been on the rise due to the pandemic.
Men. Let’s talk for a minute.
Sending a picture of your ding-a-ling to anyone is never a good idea. Once it’s out there, it’s out there. And the person you send it to can use it against you in the future. Also, don’t you dare think it’s ok because you’re married to, or going to marry the person you send it to. I’ve got news for you, over half of marriages end in divorce. So the stats say that picture can, and will, be used against you in a divorce court.
Another thing guys. You need to learn to take a hint. If you’re texting a romantic interest, and after a few times of them not responding, they’re not that interested. Now that being said, there is no exact number of unanswered texts to measure interest level by. I think that we all can agree, that the number is wayyyyyyyyyy lower than 62. That is indeed more than just a simple hint. That is just as good as straight up denial.
Along that same path, I have been told by several female friends that girls DO NOT enjoy getting these images. Now, that doesn’t speak to everyone out there. I’m sure there are a few people out there who enjoy it, and I say to them, to each their own. If that’s your thing, get after it. But, if you are thinking that might be your love interests thing, asking them will prevent some serious future problems.
I think the weirdest part of Porter’s whole issue here is his response when asked about it. How strange is it to go to Google and find a stock image and send it? To me, that makes it worse than if it was his own.
This story can be used as a cautionary tale. It brings up a very simple rule. Don’t send unsolicited explicit texts. I am sure, if someone wants those kinds of messages, they’ll ask. It seems easy to remember, but here we sit and I’m sure it’ll happen again soon.